falling down isn’t failing. not getting up is.

written by J. A. Anderson | July 25th, 2017

We’ve all been there. That awful moment when you’ve worked so hard just to find out that…you failed.

Thomas Edison once said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways it will not work.”

So, let’s talk about failure.

Failure is defined as “lack of success.” What is a success? Well, success is reaching a goal or achieving something you’ve aimed for. We’ve all been there. You work so hard on one project, one idea, only to find out your hard work didn’t pay off.

We’ve all been there. You work so hard on one project, one idea, only to find out your hard work didn’t pay off.

Or did it?

Back in elementary school, I was part of a program called Oddessy of the Mind. You would work for months with a group of other kids on a skit. You would write the script, make the props, act, sing, dance. Everything. We would work for months on a six-minute skit, preparing for the finals.

We went in, pumped up on adrenaline and excitement, knowing that we had to win. We had done so well. The judges came around and read off the winners only to find out that we did not win.

It was the worst feeling. My heart dropped into my stomach. My eyes started to burn, a lump formed in my throat. I told myself that I still did great, but it didn’t feel like that anymore. I failed. All that hard work down the drain. It felt like it was all for naught.

But it wasn’t.

We may not have won (we did win bronze two years in a row, making it to State the next years) but we learned so much. I learned how to write scripts, how to problem solve, how to be a leader. We learned how to compromise, how to work hard. So to the other teams, we may have failed.

But to me, we won.

If you ever get down because you failed, take a step back. Failure is another word for learned. Just because one way doesn’t work, that doesn’t mean you have to stop. Get back up. Brush yourself off. Look at what you did, and find a better way to do it. Redefine your success. You did not fail.

You learned.

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” -Winston Churchill.

“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” -Robert F. Kennedy.

“Failures are finger posts on the road to achievement.” – C.S. Lewis

 

 

Choose Happiness

While talking to a few of my friends one night, an interesting topic came up. Happiness. My friend said he was going to be a lawyer and I asked him if he wanted to be a lawyer. He said, “It isn’t about want.”

After a little bit more talking, he explained that he could be rich and retire early, give his kids an easy life. He said he didn’t have a problem with it, he didn’t see a problem. He also didn’t see how happiness and enjoyment came into the equation.

So I started to think about how so many people choose to do something for money. And yes, having money is helpful. Especially in this new up and coming world, where everything cost ten-times-more.

But whatever happened to happiness?

Nowadays, everything is all about working, being “successful” and following the crowd. But that isn’t happiness. So what do you think?

Happiness or success?

Why not both? Find something you love and turn it into a career. Do what you love because one day, you might regret only working for money while not being happy.

BoldSelf

Happy July!!! It’s a little crazy that we have reached the half-way point in this year, but that’s how life works, right?

Today we will be talking about a blog I stumbled upon called Bold Self.

Recently I’ve stumbled upon this awesome blog. I’m not even sure how I found it, but I did and I’m so happy that I did.

BoldSelf.com is a website/blog dedicated to helping people become more confident and love themselves.

You can join a five-day program to gain some confidence, where every day you get a new challenge. It’s awesome. And if you join the email list, she wants you to reply. And actually sends emails back, making you feel like the best person on the planet.

That is about it for today, but I just wanted to let you know about this awesome website/blog, which is linked below this. If you often find it hard to love yourself or be confident, I would check out this website. Very soon I will also put together a challenge for you wonderful people, so stay tuned.

PSST! Don’t forget to join the Wattpad Writing Contest, linked below, too. Don’t have a Wattpad? Email it to jaandersonwrite@gmail.com

Click here for Bold Self

Click here for the Wattpad Contest

***this is not sponsored. Featured Image from Boldself.com

school can be meh, but grades are key

So it’s the end of the school year. Finally. The trees turn green, classrooms go from ice-cold to crazy hot. But as the final days slip by, you stop paying attention. Homework doesn’t seem as important. And you failed that math test, but it’s fine. You had a B in the class anyway…

Until you look at your grades and your B has turned into a D.

The end of the year is the hardest time to keep up the stamina, even though it’s the most important time of the year. This is when your teachers try to jam pack anything and everything you need to know before the final exams. So slipping behind isn’t an option.

The solution?

Well, there are a few.

Firstly, keep trying just as hard. Yes, school can get boring, but (high school especially) it’s still important. Write in your planner, do your homework, study for tests. Try to balance out school and fun. For example, reward yourself after a thirty minute study session with thirty minutes of video games. Give a little, take a little.

Strike a deal and aim high. If you want to achieve a B or higher on one of your final exams, make a deal with a family member so they can keep you accountable. If you get the grade, then you can take a family outing or have a family game night. And if you don’t score high enough, then you have to do something for that family member, like do the dishes for a night or mow the lawn.

I know it’s really hard trying to keep yourself motivated, but keep your chin up. School is ending soon: summer is coming! Wouldn’t it be nice to not have to retake a class over the summer?


By Jamie Anderson